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A SHESS player’s dilemma

POSTED ON November 19th  - POSTED IN All

In chess, no two games are ever the same. The same holds true in your game of life because no two SHESS players have the same life circumstances. The fact is that we all have different battles to fight in life. No one ever said it was going to be easy, but at least if you know what you are fighting for or against, the process or effort may become more attainable. Sometimes we face battles which we don’t have to fight because they are simply not important.

Let’s Play SHESS offers an important discussion about this very subject in Chapter 8, which most women don’t pay much attention to. For example, as humans we are vulnerable to many things which we may or may not have control over. A sudden illness, the loss of a job, a devastating hurricane which destroys your home and displaces you and your family, or even a divorce to name a few.

The point is that even as women, we face challenges which are imposed upon us for just being female. Have you been told when you were a little girl to be quiet, sit still, and not be assertive? I guess if we show signs of assertiveness, we are perceived as masculine, angry, too emotional, or even bitter. What is it about us that makes us think, react, and behave the way we do when we face an opponent in life or in business?

In SHESS, your game of life, you do not consider yourself a victim, but rather a victorious warrior on your battlefield! There are two types of opponents which a SHESS player most likely will face in her life and/or business. These opponents exist in some form or another for the sole purpose of either interrupting your flow of progress or impede on your success.

One type of opponent is considered “external obstacles” and the other is referred to as “internal resistors.” The external obstacles can appear in the form of an individual in your personal or professional life or as a competitor in your markeptplace. Now, internal resistors are the most powerful opponents because they stem from inside of you, i.e., how you think about yourself in general. For instance, if you have low self-esteem, think negative, don’t believe in your abilties, or fear failure and success, then you sabotage your own personal and professional growth.

So, the question becomes how can a SHESS player face her dilemmas in life or business without losing it all or giving up on her dreams? If you are a SHESS player, then you know that you have an advantage over your opponent. You are a warrior who does not waste time in unnecessary conflicts. You preserve your energy for positive goals, fearlessly face your opponent, and ignore what does not matter in your life.

“A SHESS player does not fret over what to do next when confronted with a situation because she is committed to analyzing and solving the problem at hand. While she analyzes a problem, she anticipates different outcomes and scenarios and then confidently chooses her best course of action.” I suppose this is better than not doing anything at all. The choice is yours.

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